AsianPersuasion
Tuesday, March 02, 2004
Sugar and Spice and all things Nice
I just wanted to say that I appreciate it when friends say nice things about me! Especially on their websites...Sharon, you've been so awsome about that. I just wanted to share with everyone what she had to say about me at Zona's birhtday get-together. Sharon, you rock.
"I was stone-cold sober as I didn't drink much. Darn it. But I still had a good time catching up with some friends. Lydia was there too and she was as usual a hit with everyone. All the guys thinks she is hot, and she is, hot. Hee hee... You are, Lyd, and you know it. Seriously, if all of you were to meet Lyd, you'd think she's hot and way cool to boot within minutes of meeting her. She has that kind of charisma and friendliness. Yeah, I'm campaigning for Lydia to be President. *grin*"
Monday, March 01, 2004
Another One Bites the Dust
Well well well…seems like getting hitched these days is as common as getting a mosquito bite in Borneo. Two of my classmates have just gotten engaged in Colorado and another one of my good friends thinks that he has found “the one.” One of my cousins just got married in February and another one is saying his “I dos” this coming May!
As wedding bells and diamonds swirl around Denver, Colorado I’m sittin’ here in K.L. wondering when the heck I’m gonna even find a boy worth calling my boyfriend. Humpf.
It’s a sort of sad truth that many Asian girls feel as if we will turn into expired middle aged toads if we don’t find a suitable mate by the age of 25. I think this can partially be attributed to the CONSTANT pressure presenting itself in the from of anxious parents and extended family. I honestly can’t count how many times my aunts and married cousins have said to me, “So, when are you getting married Lydia? Sofia already has two children. She was already pregnant at your age!”
I actually made an announcement last week when one of my cousins asked the dreaded question, “when are you getting married?” As I sat on the Sarawakian woven mats at yet another family gathering, I just wanted to scream. I said, “listen, for the record…I will definitely be getting married at some point. Don’t worry everyone. I will be producing children in a few years. Let me at least find a boyfriend first.” Then, there was silence…followed by laughter. The topic was forgotten….thankfully. Phew! I think I have gotten them off my back for a few months…for now.
Why do single young girls make Asian family members feel so incredibly uncomfortable? Are they afraid we will expire? What's wrong with being SINGLE at 25!!!??
