AsianPersuasion
Wednesday, October 01, 2003
Milk and Cookies anyone?
I read this article about the pros and cons of dating a single mom…from a male point of view…on MSN.com and had to laugh out loud. This is an excerpt from the web page….
The pros
"Single moms are generally more responsible, straightforward, less promiscuous and serve more home-cooked meals. They're also more likely to take it slow, will be more understanding about giving you time off (because she needs it, too) and if she has a son she will know cool stuff about sports, super-heroes and street-sledding — and you get to play along."
Less promiscuous? More responsible? HAH! What a laugh. I only say this because I happen to know a single mom who is the MOST promiscuous person I know and she’s hardly ever home with the kids. PLUS she goes out every other night till 5am and gets totally drunk every week. And by the way, she has sons and doesn’t know shit about sports.
The “serve more home cooked meals” comment has to be my most favourite. My mother hardly ever cooked the meals at home! She was a SINGLE MOTHER for crying out loud…as if she had time to cook dinner…what…in between…going to work, making sure I did my homework, tucking me in bed and reading me a bedtime story? Please lah.
In my opinion, the writer needs to re-think “The pros” part of his article and try making it a little LESS, blatantly, stereotypical…but maybe he’s right…SOME of “the pros” might apply to SOME single mothers but I happen to know a mom's from both ends of the spectrum *clearing of throat*
One of the toughest jobs in the world is being a parent…but what’s even harder than that is being a SINGLE parent. I know this first hand, cuz I was raised by one. Reees-pect to all the single mom’s out there…especially the ones to take the time to read and sing to their children…those were some of my best memories as a kid.
Sunday, September 28, 2003
Uno besso, dos bessos, tres bessos….
Fheew! I never thought I could be kissed (besso) SO MANY times in one night! I’m talking about my Spanish speaking friends…they greet each other with two kisses on the cheek and an enthusiastic, “Hola! Como estas?”
I’ll never forget the very FIRST time I was introduced to everyone at a party…I must have met 20 Spaniards in a row…which is equivalent to 40 kisses in like, 10 minutes. I naturally greet (and say goodbye to) my Expat friends with kisses but normally we graduate to that level of “intimacy” after seeing each other a few times. But Spanish/South American people kiss on the very first meeting, which is great…but for a shy Asian girl…this can be quite uncomfortable and a little weird.
I’m giggling as I write this blog remembering poor Sharon last night being smothered with kisses and “hola”s by complete strangers…she wasn’t entirely comfortable with it (picture her cringing, as they zoomed in for the “bessos”) but hey, at LEAST I warned her before the party…I didn’t have that luxury on my first meeting…I was just thrown into a room full of really friendly, kissing Spanish people!
I LOVE it though! It’s such a fantastic way of greeting people…none of this standing on one side of the table and lazily raising a hand or nodding….that’s SO impersonal…I’d much rather kiss (especially if it’s a really hot guy).
I’ve never met a more friendly group of young people…what a refreshing experience for me in cool, standoffish K.L. If I went to a party full of Malaysians or Yuppie Expats….AS IF they would introduce themselves to me! We wait to be introduced, sad, but true. People here don’t just walk up to strangers at a party and say, “Hello. Nice to meet you. I’m Lydia. What’s your name?” Why so like dat, ah?
The world would be a much better place if everyone said hello with a kiss and were a little more friendly to each other.
Muchos Bessos! XXX
P.S. My friend Miguel said he liked you Sharon, said you were “funny.” Hmmm….interesting.
